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Ask yourself: Do people like me?

You get promoted in this
world because people like you, not because you get work done. There’s
always more than one person who can get a job done. But everyone’s
personality is different, so when you want to differentiate yourself at
work, focus on your personality.

Showing the True You

In fact, people would rather work with someone they like who’s incompetent than someone who’s competent but not likable.

Keep
in mind that "likable" is not as subjective as it seems. Most people in
the office agree on who’s likable and who’s not. For example, most
people like Bill Clinton
– he just has a likable personality. Even the Bush family members,
Clinton’s political polar opposites, say they like his personality.

So,
if you want to get ahead at the office, you need to figure out how to
make yourself likable. Usually, it’s not a matter of changing your
personality, but rather making sure that your true personality shows through. Most people, if they’re true to themselves at work, are likable.

Ten Ways to Blow It

Then
again, most people think they’re more likable than they really are, and
therefore don’t try hard enough. There are many things that keep people
from being likable — here’s a list of 10 of them:

• Using sarcasm as a defense mechanism

You
probably don’t know if you’re using sarcasm as a defense mechanism, but
if you use it a lot, it’s a safe bet that it’s in a defensive way.

• Being quiet because you’re insecure

People
are inherently social animals. If you have nothing that you want to
say, then you’re probably not likable because you have nothing to offer.

But
if you do have things to say but don’t say them, then you’re not
likable only because you’re so insecure that you believe you’ll sound
stupid when you talk.

• Not revealing emotions at work

Keeping
to yourself emotionally makes you seem one-dimensional, and it’s hard
to convey likability with no depth. Most people who talk but don’t
reveal emotions are out of touch with their emotions. You have to know
them yourself to share them with other people.

Reaching Others by Reaching Out

• Being too smug — as in not asking for help or not revealing that you’ve had help along the way

To
show no gratitude or no need for others is to alienate yourself. You
might think that you make yourself look like Superman, able to do
anything in a single bound. But superheroes don’t really exist, and
real people need real help. So let them know you understand this by
asking for help and expressing appreciation.

• Not seeing people for who they are

If
you treat people who are powerful well and people who have no power
poorly then you aren’t seeing the whole person. Power structures don’t
define a person; they define a person’s clout. Treat everyone with
respect or you won’t deserve it yourself.

• Being bored by others

If
you’re not curious about other people, they won’t be interested in you.
The most likable people make other people feel interesting by genuinely
caring about them.

Me, Me, Me

• Being obsessed with your workload

If
you think work matters more than people, then that’ll be true — for
you. And people will expect you to be a workhorse but won’t want to get
to know you. And they need to know you to like you.

• Not taking responsibility

If people don’t like you, it’s your own fault. Likable people are liked in all circumstances. If you blame people for your problems, people aren’t going to like you — even if they’re not among the people you blame.

• Hiding from objective feedback

You
can get it from therapists, co-workers, teachers, and coaches, but you
have to seek it out. And if you don’t, then you probably don’t have a
good sense of your least likable qualities. So you don’t have the
knowledge to make yourself likable.

• Not trying to change

All
the knowledge in the world can’t overcome an inability to change. The
ego is very strong and can rationalize anything. Don’t let yours do
that. Take criticism to heart, and address it no matter how likable you
think you are to begin with.

You’ll be more likable right away, because listening to others and trying to change are both inherently likable qualities.

Little things
mean a lot…when u think about it, what are the things that make u
feel the best or bring a smile to your face?..So often the simple
things we do in life bring the most joy. Look around you and take note
of the small accomplishments you made today, the nice thing u did for
someone else or all the things you take for granted that other people
would treasure.

It’s easy to forget that happiness comes
through appreciating those things we do have, instead of focusing on
the things we don’t or can’t have..

Leave yesterday
behind..another thought on becoming happier, more positive person is to
live in the present. although the past may look brighter and happier,
it is just that, the past. It is time to move forward and enjoy
life—-TODAY! So many of us wait for the perfect time or circumstance
to come about before we can enjoy life. You may think, "I’ll be happy
when i can move out on my own or when i get married." Why put off
enjoying your life until tomorrow?

The perfect event or
situation seldom comes. If we are forever waiting for it, we end up
passing up opportunities for happiness. The more pessimistic type would
say that if things are going well, it is a sign that something bad is
going to happen. They often feel they don’t really have a right to be
happy. This type of attitude can only keep you from enjoying life to
its fullest. There is nothing wrong being happy right now.

Don’t
worry–be happy..some feel they are being responsible if they worry or
fret. I used to be this way. I tended to be worrier and even stayed
awake at night worrying about things.Worrying does absolutely nothing
and is useless indulgence.

We’re instructed to cast our cares
upon God. GO TO HIM AND LET HIM WORRY ABOUT IT. What a great blessing
and relief! Once we do this, we don’t have any reason to worry. We can
go forward and do something productive!

Help others enjoy
life…do things for other people..be sensitive to someone else’s
needs. Take the focus OFF yourself. This helps u better appreciate the
good things going on in your life.

THOSE PEOPLE WHO TEND TO BE
THE HAPPIEST ARE THOSE WHO PUT OTHERS SECOND (God is first and u are
third..). One of the most rewarding experiences in life is helping
other people.

Life really is what u make of it. God fully intends u to live a full, abundant, happy life. It is our responsibility to do so.